Sitting in the church service, surrounded by all kinds of different people, I discovered something that had a dramatic impact on my life. These people, the mourners at this funeral, expressed their sadness and loss in many different ways; tears of pain, silent contemplation, sobbing, and wailing. In the midst of it all, nothing was as sad to witness as the tears of regret. Realizing that so many things would now go unresolved and that so many words would never be shared has a way of making the loss of a loved one even more difficult to deal with.
Sadly we often wait until someone is gone or leaving before we tell them how we really feel about them. We can certainly still express our thoughts to our loved ones while sitting at the funeral service or at some later time while placing flowers at a grave side, but nothing compares to seeing someone’s face when we tell them what they really mean to us. It’s strange to think that we are often more inclined to say the negative, even mean things, that come to our minds when someone is alive and with us, while the kind, loving thoughts, that we truly feel, often go unspoken until it is too late.
We ought to make a firm decision to speak the positive things while we have a chance. Perhaps if we spend more time saying the positive things, that we want to say, some of the negative things, that we wish we never said out loud, would go unspoken. Be sure to say every good thing you need to say before it is too late.
“Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” – Proverbs 16:24 NIV